Changing Your Astrological Identity
Moments in the Flow...When a shift occurs in what Signifies You in Another Person's Chart
Hello again,
First I apologize for not having a voiceover for this post…I recorded one and when I listened to the play back, it started to speed up. Not sure why…will have to investigate.
I had been an Astrologer for over 30 years when a realization finally arrived about an astrological technique that not all practitioners believe in or use. But I know there is merit and always consider this now because it showed up in a dramatic way when I moved up to South Carolina.
The basic astrology information to know is that each house of the birth chart has a sign on its cusp (or doorway). The planet that rules the sign on the cusp gives information about how you relate to the issues of the house itself. We also look at the house that planet is in (as well as planets in that house) for more clues.
An example would be seeing the ruler of the 6th (work) or 10th (career) house in the 4th of the home. This could suggest a person who will work from their home (or their work will have to do with home and family). The house where the ruler of the 2nd house of personal money and possessions is located (and the sign it is in) indicates a way that person can make and spend money.
In my example, we are looking at a shift of houses that represented me. For more basic information, the ‘person’ houses are 3 (siblings, neighbors, lower school classmate), 4 (family, parent), 5 (child, romance), 6 (co-workers or employees), 7 (contractual partners), 9 (in-laws, 10 (boss, parent) and11 (friends and community members).
A close friend had moved to the foothills area of South Carolina. I had wanted to leave south Florida but couldn’t decide on the location and then on my second visit to see this friend, I was at a waterfall that ‘called my name.’ And I knew I would relocate to this area.
I had come up on another brief visit to look around but that weekend had me discouraged and I wasn’t sure of my financial situation. My friend suggested I sell my condo and I could come and stay with her till I found a home to buy. It was a generous offer and as it turned out, the famous real estate bubble of 2005 came in and it was definitely time to sell. I moved to SC just over 3 months later.
My things were in storage nearby and I moved into her guest bedroom. There were no incidents and we seemed compatible but she started to change in a significant way. It seemed as though most of what I said was contradicted and I could have said something about the clear blue sky and she would have said, ‘don’t you see all those clouds?’
It was almost constant. And I was surprised at how uncomfortable I felt as this had never been my experience with her before and I thought of getting an apartment to rent short term but I knew if I did that, the friendship would be over. She didn’t seem to notice the change and she would be hurt. I didn’t want that.
It took just under three months for me to move into the perfect house for me. We remained friends, but something fundamental had changed. One day at lunch she was telling me about how her ex-husband (also deceased) used to say that she argued with him all the time. She had a comeback to that and all I could think of was how right he was and how much I could relate.
And as I thought about it, and the fact that along with the 7th house of marriage partner, he could be seen by the 4th house, too. I decided to have a look at her chart and there it was:
When I was a friend I was indicated by the 11th house. Cancer (nurturing and caring) was on the cusp and the Moon ruled that house. It was in my birth sign, Sagittarius, in good aspect to her Venus in Libra. I could see that clearly in her generous and kind behavior and how we had traveled to the UK (Sagittarius, long journeys) together and had a fantastic time.
Then I looked at the ruler of her 4th house. This house was ruled by Jupiter and her Jupiter in Aquarius was in the house of work, opposed by Mars in Leo in the 12th house. Mars in the sign of the king queen) in the hidden house of self-undoing was arguing with her Sagittarius friend who suddenly seemed to need ‘guidance’. A lot.
One of the relationships that seems to shift dramatically is when someone goes from a romantic partner (5th house) to a contractual marriage partner (7th house). “He/she changed at the wedding,” those quickly divorced are heard to say. I can say I have experienced this, too, but I will let you explore this idea on your own.
Of course the change to the 7th house can bring a ruler in good aspect, too. But it’s wise to check on that along with the synastry and composite charts if you plan to marry. And when you are looking at siblings and children, the house mentioned can represent the 1st born sibling and then we skip two houses for the next and so on…the 5th represents the first child and then we skip two houses for the second. The 7th represents the 1st marriage partner and two houses on, the second….
And there’s more ways to use the rulers of the houses, of course, but I thought it would be interesting to know that when you change roles in someone’s life, your astrological identity changes too, for better or worse. If you want more information about a relationship in your life, Contact Me for ways to get a reading.
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